#1: Words of
Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is
your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I
love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward.
Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
#2: Quality Time
For those whose love language is spoken with Quality
Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person
is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks
on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions,
postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
#3: Receiving
Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the
receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak
this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are
prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary,
or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
#4: Acts of
Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love?
Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of
Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for
you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this
language their feelings don’t matter.
#5: Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose
primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back,
holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show
excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while
neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
What if you could say or do just the right thing
guaranteed to make that special someone feel loved? The secret is learning the
right love language! Millions of couples have learned the simple way to express
their feelings and bring joy back into marriage: The 5 Love Languages, Dr. Gary
Chapman’s New York Times bestseller. You could test yourself here.
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